When we feel an emotion strongly enough, what we’re really feeling is a vibrational energy. Every emotion has its own specific vibrational frequency. Anger is a different emotional frequency, energy, or vibration from frustration, and that’s different from sadness. They’re all different. And when we’re feeling an intense emotion, our whole being can take on this vibration and it’s during those times that sometimes the energy of the emotion that we’re feeling is too powerful and that energy can become trapped and stuck in the body. And because that’s all the body really is – an energy field – when we distort that energy field, we eventually start to have problems. Because what we’re really doing is your distorting the tissues of the body themselves.
Anger is a common emotion. It is an excess of energy in the body. But often it can lead us to say and do things we later regret, cause damage to our relationships, and stress us out. When we hold on to anger, we have less room for creativity. When we hold on to resentment, we have less room for happiness. When we hold on to fear, we have less room for love.
Holding on to negative emotions impedes our ability to create the life we want, because every time we’re in a state of anger, or resentment, or fear, or sadness, or guilt, or shame, we literally limit our ability to think clearly and feel safe.
Acceptance is a process that reduces our suffering and increases our feelings of freedom, by allowing us to come to terms with the facts of our life as they are in the current moment. Anger is the opposite of accepting reality. Anger can be associated with a belief that things should not be as they are. In situations that we cannot change for the time being (no matter how angry we might feel about them), acceptance is a wiser strategy, and one that causes less suffering for us.
So how can we shift out of anger once the fuse has been lit?
Try this exercise: Willing Hands are when you take your hands and turn your palms to face upward. You can place your hands on your knees or by your sides. Relax your fingers, arms, and shoulders. It is very difficult to stay angry while doing willing hands. Take long, slow, deep breaths to further calm yourself down.
I encourage you to practice Willing Hands throughout your day when you feel irritated or impatient, and when you have thoughts about a person who has hurt you.